My Chiron in the 3rd: Communication Issues

Chiron is called the wounded healer–where you were wounded, is now where you will heal others. You may not always feel the strongest in the area, but somehow no one will notice.

Find your Chiron, by looking at your chart here.

My Chiron story is personal to me, but I hope that it helps or inspires those struggling with their own communication and speech–or any points in your life that were wounded.

In my Birth Chart, Chiron is in Gemini in the 3rd House, so to say that I struggled with my speech, is an understatement.  I was not only ridiculously shy growing up, but when I finally did talk, I was ridiculed by both adults and other kids, due to the prolific number of speech impediments I had.

The adults must have believed that their incessant laughter over my inability to say my own name, wouldn’t drive me to quiet tears, but of course, it did.

“What’s your name?”
“OMG you are so cute and that’s hilarious! Your name isn’t Alytha, is it!? You just can’t SAY it!”

I stopped saying my name when people asked, which only drove people to anger. Anger was better than laughter.

Then of course there was my hilarious father, “Hey Alyssa! Say, ‘Red rover ran the rugged roads!’ Now say, ‘Silly Sammy Sosa slurped six sodas and got sick sick sick!’ Holy crap! This is hilarious!”

As I grew up, I had crazy amounts of shame for the way I was. I can’t actually tell you if it was partly because I was born a little insecure, or if it was 100% bred into me, through the way I was treated. But when people so much as looked at me, I wanted to cry–for they surely were picking out my flaws.

In 6th grade, a very pretty, popular girl started making fun of me for everything I did. At one point, I asked her why, and she told me that it was because, “Everything about you is ridiculous: the way you speak, dress, and walk.” I was poor growing up, so my clothes were hand-me downs, but as for my speech, that was my fault for being born incorrectly.

When I told my parents about my verbal bully, they told me that I was only harboring resentment and anger towards a human, and I should be nice to her. Of course, they couldn’t see that I wasn’t very well-liked or popular, because they loved me so much. They were also both Pisces, who liked to block out certain things if they were too sad. Although at that time, I believed them to be supportive of my bully’s views of me. Parents are seriously alien, sometimes.

In 6th grade, on the first Tuesday of each month, I would go see a speech therapist instead of sitting in my science class. What speech therapy actually entailed, was walking over to the special-ed hall, where I learned how to use my tongue correctly, with flash cards and game boards. The therapist was very nice, but I literally got drooled on in that class, at least once, by each kid. Quite seriously, the only kids in my school that couldn’t talk, were the very lovely kids with special needs who had no control over their mouths, and me. I could tell that this class was lowering my self-esteem, so one day, I pretended to forget to go. The therapist came to get me, and loudly exclaimed to the whole class, “Alyssa forgot all about her speech therapy class today! How are you supposed to learn to talk correctly if you forget about it!” And then she reached her arms out, as if to embrace me for a hug. I was mortified for years afterwards. Just thinking about it, gave me the creepy shudders until I was around 20 years old.

In high school I didn’t raise my hand in class, even if I had the answer to a question no one else understood. You see, at this point I was so trained to believe that no one would want to hear me speak–I didn’t speak at all.

I was halfway through high school, when something did start to change within me. As transit Saturn in Gemini rolled along in the early aughts, and jumped on top of my Chiron–I learned how to laugh at myself! After every slip of tongue or any crazy random stutter, I laughed. Because it was funny. And by the end of my school hell, I got mouth surgery to expand my palate, and my tongue fit, and I no longer lisped (Well not soberly). I finally had the satisfaction of learning that I wasn’t an idiot for the lisping and the tripping over my tongue that destroyed my life so early on. It was my body’s fault! My body did not actually work the way it was meant to.

But it was like the universe told me I had to learn to believe in myself, and laugh at my ridiculousness, before I was shown that there was a problem that could be fixed. The Universe is a dick, but I can thank it for teaching me the fine art of laughing at myself–Something so many people miss out on.

When I got into my 20’s, I wasn’t afraid of talking anymore, but I was constantly having to sit and listen to people make fun of how idiotic I was, whenever I said something they didn’t agree with. But that’s life, and the fact that my brain is full of objectionable ideas. I think the saddest Chiron point of my early adulthood was when I realized that every boyfriend I had, outwardly laughed at me, when I would tell them what I wanted to do with my life, “You can’t do that! You’re not that smart or funny!”

The next part of my life seems to make no sense:

When I was 26 years old, something inside me told me I could logically make YouTube videos. It wasn’t an outward voice, because seriously, very few people believed in my ability to entertain, enlighten, or even speak coherently. But I listened to the voice within, and I did it.

A week after my first video was posted, I got drunk and showed my boyfriend, because I was too embarrassed to show him while sober. What he told me afterwards, is probably why I married him.

He said,  “I think you found the dream that is going to take you out of the service industry.”

He was right.

Now, if you asked me what my passion was, I would have to say, it somehow all points to helping others find their voice.

You know, I can’t keep you on my back forever, drag you behind me, or cheer you on for the rest of your life, but I can get you to believe in your words. And if you’re anything like me, finding your voice will take you to your own fulfillment of purpose.

I’m very glad that there are people with platforms to speak, because of me–even if I don’t always agree with their words and even when they turn around and use their words to bully me. I’m glad that people care about what I have to say, and even happier that there are people who don’t. Trolls are something I’ve dealt with my whole life, and trust me when I say that they don’t get any better at what they do–

But I always do.



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  • rachel says:

    I have Chiron in my third, and I used to lisp as well but I made my mom teach me how to say my s properly when I was seven. I have Chiron in Scorpio and right now, that’s the only effect that I can think of. Only 18 now and thinking it might still have effects?

  • Paula says:

    Wow, your story almost mirrors my childhood and early teen years! I also have Chiron in Gemini (5th house) and I was so ashamed to speak. My family would tease me because of the American accent I had when speaking Spanish (I was the 1st born in the U.S. in my mom’s family). My classmates and teachers would always ask me to repeat myself or ask me why I talked a certain way in English. I’m 27 now, and it wasn’t until I went to New Orleans that I realized I don’t have a speech impediment or act weird. I actually have a southern accent and use sayings when I talk! Since I was raised by my Nicaraguan grandmother and nana from North Carolina (Papa was from Eastern Kentucky) no wonder I spoke differently. It was one of the few times I felt normal and accepted. My mom said no wonder I talk like an old lady, my nana and papa ruined me. They passed away when I was very young due to cancer, so that also made me go into a shell. I’m definitely the type to make my voice heard when I hear ignorant comments.

    I notice I take time to choose my words when writing and speaking…don’t know if other people with the placement do the same?

  • Jannia says:

    Alyssa, my dear friend, you are in for a treat.

    I also have Chiron in Gemini – but on the 8th house.
    I also have/had a stutter.
    I also had a thereapist ( maybe 2 or 3 of them)

    There have been some periods in my life where the stutter goes away but it always comes back. It’s weird.
    Since it is in the 8th house I’m assuming that that is how it works: the problem is recurrent. But I’m not sure how I heal others through my problem – time will tell I guess <3

  • Kelly says:

    This is such an amazing article in so many ways. Thank you.

  • Lauren says:

    Warren. That is how I pronounced my name, Lauren, until I was 7. My mom and sister would make fun of me and call it “Lauren Language.” Yeah, thats so sucking hilarious. My chiron is on my 3rd house cusp in taurus and mercury in aqua 12th. Two out of 3 of my siblings have disabilities. Alyssa, you have written my story. Thank you and bravo for speaking the the truth.

  • momomo says:

    Wow, I could never thought that. I always thought you were having super light life and out of boredoom started making videos. Seriously it changed my perspective so much. Today I was having a really tough day and felt like, omg, how can I express myself and make people laugh…bc this is what I want them to do..laugh at their problems… if I, myself always struggle… but by being funny and laughing at things I try to compensate it somehow but still I though there is no real match between these too. Now I know I am wrong. I have chiron in 8th house, people tell me deep shit although I never was in super intimate romantic relationship e-v-e-r. And by being close to them and not running away when they are opening up to me they think I am a ‘pro’ with these matters when the truth couldn’t be far away….

  • Philippa says:

    Thanks Alyssa, this post is so inspiring. I just read the first few lines and knew I had to go finish a blog post I’ve been thinking about and writing before I could have the luxury of reading your post. You’ve given me so much enthusiasm, passion and purpose to tackle me Chiron dragon and demon and turn it into something truly me and hopefully pay this forward by it being inspirational and thought provoking too. Thank you and I have a link to your You Tube Channel on my website hoping others will get joy and aliveness from watching and listening to you too 🙂

  • ingrid says:

    Hi Alyssa,

    Would you be kind to tell me your view of a second house Chiron conjunct Sun (in aries) ? … Please pretty please? 😀

    Thanks !

  • Blaze says:

    Thank you for the personal insight! I also have Chiron in the 3rd, though it’s in Cancer. Do you have any tips when communicating with the Cancer placement instead?

  • Kel says:

    Alyssa not only do I love this story, but I love the way you told it! I love the way you tell everything actually, which is why I’ve been watching your vids for years now. Listening to you is so fun, but not for the same reasons that others had of you growing up. You really do keep getting better and better at what you do.
    You make a lot of sense when you talk about something.

    When I was 5, I had post traumatic stress disorder and did not speak at all for a year. Since then I’ve found parts of my voice over the years, but just to testify to what you told in this story, I think you have really helped me to actually use my voice for what it is. And I want to say thank you for that.

  • Canaqua says:

    Inspirational plus Lady!!!! Bravo! I am glad you found your voice, because it is every so enlightening.
    Now if I could only figure out my 7th house Chiron conjunct grand water trine…. ‘big sigh’

  • Lenka says:

    I literally burst into tears after reading “helping others to find their voice” sentence. So beatifully said Alyssa. Keep doing amazing job.

  • Carrie Dawn says:

    That’s fucking inspirational Chiron story.